Adopted European Woman, 50, Seeks her Birth Mother.

Dear readers: I received this e mail from an old friend in Europe, and I wanted to see if my readers had any ideas.

Hello Observer:

I do not know whether you can help me in any way or not, but nevertheless I would like to ask your opinion about something.

My daughter will spend four months in Santa Monica arriving in September 2016 (she is enrolled in a language course and will stay with a family), and her stay incited me to plan a stay in the United States as well. The objective of my stay is visiting the birthplace of my biological mother.

I forget whether we ever talked about my being adopted and having roots in the United States. Anyway, about twenty years ago, I had a search run by a reunion bureau in order to get the current address of any relatives of mine. I managed to get an answer from my grandmother, in which she clearly stated that they were not interested in any kind of contact. Of course, this hurt me very deeply, but I did not insist any further. Now, having arrived at a ripe age myself, I would like to try again to find my mother and get, hopefully, an answer from her directly. I do not mean to inconvenience her, so a simple note, some explanations about her decision to give me away, and about my father would be a real help.

I have found many different offers for child and parent reunion and do not really know where to start. So I thought maybe you have heard that one or the other works well and could advise me where to turn to. The search I had run yielded the married name of a woman the people in this bureau presumed to be my birthmother. Writing to that address yielded no result, and I have no idea if she, should she be the one I am looking for, still lives there. The contact to my grandmother was established using the then thirty year old address on my birth certificate (than my adoptive mother gave to me just before I got married, hence I could not have known about my US roots when I was in Santa Monica, it just occurs to me...).

Well, I hope my asking does not strike you as being impudent. And who knows, maybe we could meet when I visit my daughter? My arrival is planned for the end of the year, remembering Colette's and my arrival on December 28th, 1988.

Love

Gabriela Regula Million